Working With Your Parts: Meeting the Voices Inside Without Losing Yourself
Did you ever notice there are voices inside your head that don’t quite feel like you?
A sharp inner critic that sounds far harsher than your adult self.
A fearful voice that reacts as if something terrible is about to happen—when nothing actually is.
A small, tender voice that just wants to hide, or be held, or not have to try so hard.
Most people assume these voices mean something is wrong with them.
I see it differently.
These aren’t random thoughts.
They are parts—younger strategies, protective responses, and emotional imprints that may have formed long before you had language, logic, or choice.
And here’s the most important thing I want you to hear:
If you’re able to notice a voice, you are not it.
That noticing—that quiet awareness behind the noise—is what I call your Unshakable Self (US).
The Unshakable Self: The One Who Is Listening
Your Unshakable Self isn’t a concept you have to create.
It’s already here.
It’s the part of you that can witness fear without drowning in it.
The part that can feel emotion without becoming the emotion.
The part that remains steady—even when other parts are loud.
Most people try to “fix” themselves from the thinking mind.
But the thinking mind is usually run by a protector.
This is where hypno-meditation becomes essential.
Hypno-meditation gently quiets the surface mind and allows you to access the deeper field beneath the noise—where your parts live, and where true change happens.
The Protector: The One Who Took the Wheel
Protectors are not the enemy.
They formed to keep you safe—often very early in life—when safety wasn’t guaranteed.
A protector might:
Push you to overachieve
Keep you hyper-vigilant
Numb you out
Distract you
Shut things down emotionally
Keep you “in control”
From the outside, protectors can look like anxiety, perfectionism, procrastination, or self-sabotage.
From the inside, they feel like urgency. Tightness. Pressure.
Protectors don’t trust that it’s safe to soften.
They don’t trust that you can handle what’s underneath. They believe the US is still young and not developed enough to handle hard things
And they didn’t get that job because they’re bad.
They got that job because they were needed.
The Young one: The One Who holds the Feeling
Beneath the protector is usually a young one.
This is the part of you that holds
Fear
Shame
Grief
Loneliness
Feeling unwanted or unseen
These young ones are formed at moments when something hurt—and there was no one to help process the experience.
So you did the only thing you could do:
You pushed the feeling away.
You assigned a protector.
You moved on.
Until one day, years later, the young one starts knocking.
Not with words—but with anxiety, intrusive thoughts, emotional overwhelm, or a sense that something inside you is always on edge.
Why Hypno-Meditation Works With Parts
Talking about your parts isn’t the same as meeting them.
Hypno-meditation allows you to:
Bypass the protector’s constant commentary
Access the emotional body directly
Create safety before analysis
Meet parts without retraumatizing yourself
This work doesn’t happen by force.
It happens through relationship.
A Simple Framework for Working With Your Parts
This isn’t a script.
It’s a way of approaching yourself with clarity and respect.
1. Anchor in the Unshakable Self
Before you engage any part, ground yourself.
Feel your body.
Notice your breath.
Let yourself arrive.
If you can witness, you are already in Self.
2. Identify the Protector (Without Arguing With It)
Ask gently:
“What part of me is most active right now?”
Don’t analyze.
Notice tone, sensation, posture.
Thank it—for trying to help.
Protectors soften when they’re acknowledged.
3. Ask What It’s Protecting
Every protector is guarding something tender.
You don’t force this step.
You create enough safety for it to emerge.
Often the answer comes as an image, a memory, or a feeling—not words.
4. Meet the Young One Slowly
Young ones don’t need fixing.
They need presence.
Let them be seen.
Let them be felt
Let them know they’re not alone anymore and most of all — that they are safe.
This is where healing actually happens.
They have been waiting forever for an adult to be present - you are that adult.
5. Re-orient to the Present
Remind the system:
“This moment is different.”
Your nervous system learns through experience—not logic.
You Are Not a Collection of Broken Pieces
You are a system that adapted brilliantly.
Your parts aren’t problems to eliminate.
They are stories asking to be witnessed.
Signals asking for safety.
Younger selves asking for leadership.
And leadership doesn’t come from control.
It comes from the Unshakable Self—the one who can stay.
This is the work.
Not silencing the voices.
But learning who’s speaking—and why.
When you do that, something remarkable happens:
The system relaxes.
The noise softens.
And you begin living from a place that feels steady, clear, and deeply your own.
You were never broken.
You were protecting something precious.
And now, you get to lead.
